More Thoughts...

The first community(s) I was involved with embraced me with open arms. Looking back I see this was because I was 'under the wing' of a woman totally emersed in that community. I was introduced to other lesbians, taken to events, and at the time, spent most of my weekends at the gay bar as well as private parties. I think now, had I of been alone it would have been a lot harder to become involved in a very close knit community of women. I didn't stay long in this city, only 12 months before I moved to Christchurch, one of the main cities in New Zealand. I found this lesbian community(s) very difficult to become involved with. I had expected the same level of friendliness that I had experienced prior, and simply didn't find it. I stayed here only 10 months before moving again, this time to Wellington. It is here, in Wellington, that I found a community of women that I really cherished. For the first 3 or 4 years I lived in the gay bar (Caspers at the time) and got involved with every lesbian event that I could. I became one of the locals...

I was still really young (21) and was simply having a good time. I was promiscuous, flirtatious, and generally out for fun. I was also fairly arrogant:-) I knew I could charm older women and took advantage of this. It never once occurred to me that my behaviour may not have been accepted by the women in this community(s).

More to come...